Being part of a couple is one of life’s joys and comforts. It’s also hard work, and can be the source of intense suffering when it seems you can’t seem to get back to the good feelings you and your partner once shared.
Maybe you have reached an impasse on an important issue and despite your best efforts at communication and compromise, you remain stuck. Perhaps there has been an injury or betrayal so deep that you are unsure whether you can ever get back to feeling safe and connected. Maybe you have been having some version of the same argument for years, becoming triggered the moment the familiar pattern begins, and falling into predictable, unproductive perspectives and behaviours. Or maybe you have just slowly drifted apart, and live like roommates who don’t really fight, but don’t really connect either. Regardless of the particulars, a key part of re-establishing safety and connection involves accessing and understanding each other’s deeper feelings, learning to control one’s own state, and shifting patterns of communication.
If you decide to be seen as a couple at Old North Psychology, you will be contacted by your psychologist by email to arrange the initial assessment visit. Our Couple Therapy Assessment entails and initial (joint) session, followed by an individual assessment session for each partner, and then a fourth (joint) feedback session. Prior to the initial session, you and your partner will be asked to complete some intake paperwork, including the Couple Therapy Intake Form. At the first visit you will spend time explaining what you are hoping to get from therapy, as well as providing detailed information about the presenting problem or symptoms. We will get a sense of the story of the two of you, and how you arrived at where you are now. Your psychologist will explain a bit about their approach and what you can expect. Typically, in this initial session, you will get a sense of whether you think you and your psychologist will work well together. You and your psychologist will discuss frequency of appointments and scheduling of future appointments. The frequency of appointments varies across situations, but generally we like to meet with you more regularly in the early stages of therapy, and then begin to space sessions out a bit once some progress has been made. You may be asked to complete some psychological assessment measures online after the initial session.
At Old North Psychology three of our psychologists provide couple therapy. Some of the main presenting issues that bring couples to therapy are outlined below. You may find that you and your partner are dealing with more than one of these issues - that is not uncommon. You may feel that none of these speaks to what you would like to address in therapy. If that is the case, feel free to contact us so that we can advise whether we can help you, and can refer you elsewhere if necessary.
We provide couple therapy to address:
Our doctors who see couples are:
Please feel free to reach out to us to discuss your needs. Our team will be able to help you book an appointment for an assessment or answer any questions that you may have about our practice.